When your hardest time is also your happiest

Over the past few days, as I’ve been walking through one of the hardest things I’ve ever experienced, I’ve been noticing something.

A couple weeks ago I was working on my bible study that I’m doing with a wonderful group of ladies. One of the prompts asked us to write down our hardest year and our happiest year. It was really hard for me to do that, because I feel like my hardest and happiest years are the same. I can remember a simpler time, before children and before marriage. It was easier, more care free, and less work. But was it happier? Absolutely not. As I’ve added the roles of wife and mom, my life has gotten busier, messier, and more exhausting. The first year of motherhood was one of the hardest I’ve ever experienced. But it was also absolutely, hands-down the most joyful. I couldn’t pick a happiest year and a hardest year, because as things have gotten harder, they have also gotten immeasurably happier.

I’m noticing something similar as we experience this loss of our sweet baby. I’ve never felt such pain. I’ve never felt such grief. I’ve never mourned a loss so deeply. But at the same time, I’ve never been more thankful for my healthy, thriving, incredible toddler. I’ve never felt more love for my husband. I’ve never felt closer to God. With our deep loss has come a deep sense of gratitude for all of these blessings that have been right in front of me all along.

I’ve wondered many times over the past few days “What are you doing, God? What are you trying to teach me through this?”

I think I’m starting to see a glimpse of His answer. With this gut wrenching pain, comes deeper love. More genuine gratitude. An even more thankful heart. A closer relationship with Him.

I miss my baby who is in heaven so, so much. And I love the sweet girl who is in front of me making a big mess at the dinner table and the man who is away at the fire station working hard to provide for us even more than I ever have. I trust in my God who is faithful and good more than ever before.

I’m so sad. And I’m so thankful. And it’s okay to be both.

2 thoughts on “When your hardest time is also your happiest

  1. Awww, Abby, your accepting faith, knowing that God loves you despite allowing this pain in your lives, is beautiful. He truly is GOOD. Always. And he loves your little one even more than you do, which is amazing, too. May your heart heal enough for you to continue to see so clearly. Did you ever hear about how June W taught her parenting class? The part about parents worrying about spoiling baby, etc? She had a few beads on a string. The beads represent babyhood, the strings represent the whole life. She encouraged parents to see how short babyhood is and to embrace it fully, because it is over so quickly. I like to think of that same analogy for our lives here on earth compared to our heavenly lives, “forever”. Life on earth is just a few beads and the string that represents eternity goes on forever. You get to spend the forever part with your little one, after the relatively brief time we will spend on earth, the beads.

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